INTP with an ISFJ?

There's this one ISFJ girl who always gives me a "look" whenever I pass her in a hallway, and I can't for the life of me figure out what it means. Hmm...

It's hard for me to say, since I don't know/understand INTP's very well...but I always get the sense that ISFJ's and INTP's have a lot that they can learn from one another, but also have a really hard time getting along.

It's possible that in relationships it's a little bit better (at least at first) since they kind of balance each other out, and therefore appeal to one another...but I think I would have a really hard time living with an INTP. I just have a hard time understanding them, and therefore I have a hard time trusting them.

It's funny because I think I get along with INFP's really well. I think it's because with an INFP, once I get to know them, I have an easier time relaxing due to the feeling side, and so I'm not as concerned with understanding them. They can live in their own little world and I just leave them to it, because it doesn't threaten mine (though I guess in a relationship, this would be different, since the bond is deeper). But with an INTP, it's harder to relax.


So I don't know...as others have said, if both go into the relationship with a willingness to compromise and understand each other (which can be hard for ISFJ's), then I think the relationship is a great opportunity for both people to grow. But it seems to me like there would be a whole lot of bumps along the way.

Originally Posted by teddy564339

It's funny because I think I get along with INFP's really well. I think it's because with an INFP, once I get to know them, I have an easier time relaxing due to the feeling side, and so I'm not as concerned with understanding them. They can live in their own little world and I just leave them to it, because it doesn't threaten mine (though I guess in a relationship, this would be different, since the bond is deeper). But with an INTP, it's harder to relax.

I have this thing with IXFPs because I lose all anxiety that I might have trying to talk to a person. Anxiety such as worrying how I need to say something.

I tend to befriend many NTs (especially XNTPs) very quickly when our interests are same because they are usually always ready to talk them whenever I feel like it. I thought about dating an ENTP once, but then I realized that the way we operate would result in clashes. Si and Ne are opposite functions and my serious focus on a certain ground is not the same as the clouds that XNTPs fly to and from to come up with lies (usually I see ENTPs do this, I think INTPs tend to be more sincere with their principles, but they still look at stuff from many angles. I tend to stick to one side, unless convinced to think another way and it is easy to convince me when you give me certain facts I can relate to).

Originally Posted by HandiAce

I have this thing with IXFPs because I lose all anxiety that I might have trying to talk to a person. Anxiety such as worrying how I need to say something.

I definately find this with the ISFPs I've met, and to an extent the INFPs.

my boyfriend is INTP and we have been together for 4 years now.

I hope you are still active on this site, I realize you posted a while ago. I am dating an INTP and would love to talk about it with another ISFJ.

I haven't been in a while but I got the alert email. :) Are you in a new relationship?

We've been in a relationship for a year and a half - so It's new in comparison to your relationship.

I found this website last night and was so excited by the possibility of learning more about my boyfriend and our relationship in an indirect way. What I read really gave me a fresh perspective on how our personalities interact.

Are you still in your relationship?

South, I just found this website too. I am an INTP and my girlfriend is an ISFJ. We have been dating for about a year nad a half too. (I almost have to ask if you are my gf, but what are the chances of that happening.)

I posted a new thread in the ISFJ forum discussing my relationship. I would be glad to answer and questions about the INTP side of it if you have any.

I know this is an older post, I just found this website, but I would like to also put in my support. I am an ISFJ dating an INTP, we've been together for 2 years and buying a house together. I can tell you, there are definitely things we disagree on and I get annoyed about especially when it comes to directions and projects! I also do see him as lazy sometimes especially when I have to get up earlier in the morning then him and still get him breakfast/make him lunch before hustling him into a shower and out the door so we can both get to work somewhat on time. The thing though, is that I see his strengths. He is much more of a doer then me in terms of figuring out how things work to fix them. He looks at schematics and will take whole cars apart just to learn something new and say that he did it himself, whereas I would just take it to a shop. He gets annoyed with my lack of trying, when its really that I do not understand things as quickly as he does. The thing that keeps us together, though, is that we have learned to communicate. Sometimes it takes some prying, and time, but we put it forth and it is worth it so far!